What can I do when my child blows their top?
It's important to understand that only the individual on red has the ability to calm themselves down.
Think of a tornado. A tornado is a powerful force that's out of control. Nobody can stop a tornado, it must wind itself down. You can't reason with a tornado, or teach it how to behave.
Someone who has spun out-of-control to RED must calm down before they can interact reasonably. Parents, as hard as it is, you must give your child time and a safe place for them to calm down before you'll be able to communicate meaningfully about what has taken place.
The Grump Meter gives your child the tools he or she needs to develop self-control!
Developing self-regulation and self-calming behaviors takes people working together to discover their own creative ways to be together.
- A family who would like to develop effective problem-solving and communication will agree to the following:
"Let's wait till everyone find their own way to blue before we discuss subjects which are difficult. We will all do better talking to each other if we wait till we are all on blue."
- The Grump Meter is a powerful helps us understand that scary, dangerous spot called RED and the triggers that can send us there. It is a preventive tool that can teach how not to spin out of control.
- Help your child start building a toolbox of calming techniques and reminders to avoid the climb to red.
- Pages 27-34 of your book provides information on climbs up and down the Grump Meter, and the workbook provides many exercises to help!